Yes, I am still watching Sex and the City

On a quiet Sunday evening, I cooked myself a meal. This is the first time in a long while that I’ve cooked and I’m glad to say that I’ve still got it in me. After hearing a friend rave on about how good and cheap this wine was, I couldn’t resist the temptation and bought myself a bottle. Cheap it was and wonderful, even more so. Unwinding on my couch, sipping on red wine and enjoying my chicken and basil pasta, I decided to pick up on my SATC addiction. Okay, so now I’m up to Season 4…..should be over soon so you guys won’t have to put up with this for much longer.

I’m up to the part where Carrie decides to get back with her ex (after they broke up because she cheated on him with Big). Quick recap: Aiden agreed to giving it a second chance but then he starts treating Carrie like shit. I guess it was an attempt to get even. Carrie allows it because she feels bad about everything and is punishing herself.

It gets me thinking, Forgive and forget. Is that really possible?
To me, forgiving means no finger-pointing, no blaming, no resentment. It means to let go of what happened. But does forgiving include forgetting too? Forgiving is difficult, but to forget is even harder. To me, forgetting is a commitment, a promise to let go of the anger, hurt and pain and to never make negative references to the deed again. With Carrie and Aiden’s case, I’m not sure what happened to them (because I haven’t watched it yet!), but there are couples that can move past cheating and grow stronger together. But how many people can truly forgive and then forget?

To forgive takes a lot of effort and strong will - because blaming someone else is so much easier. To forget takes even more because it is a conscious decision to open up again and allow ourselves to be vulnerable and to accept the fact that we could be hurt again. But the important question is, what good would that do to yourself and the other person to stand behind the hurdle and point fingers at each other rather than working out how to jump over? It would only result in the two of you being stuck in a constant state of anger and pain and hurt. But of course, it isn’t a matter of one. It involves two people dedicated to put in effort and it certainly takes a long and sometimes difficult road.I don’t know why I am writing about these things, but I guess I just have a lot of opinions. Sometimes, I think it would be great if life was like a TV show. All we need to do is fast-forward a couple episodes or even a whole season and we could find out what happens. But, hey, life is about trial and error. We wouldn’t know if we didn’t try…right? So I think maybe it’s time for me to stop worrying and analyzing and to give up my inferior attempts at predictions…..and just forgive and forget. Which means to allow another person to be human in faults, mistakes and wrongdoings and hand out the bandage that holds the wound together long enough to heal.

Because what happens will happen. Like the boring old saying..Yesterday’s the past, tomorrow’s the future and today’s a gift. That’s why its called the present….

And the bible says, don’t worry about tomorrow because tomorrow will have it’s own worries.

I guess I should go to bed. It’s getting late and I think that’s enough babbling for tonight…won’t you agree?