differing views..

I find it rather ironic that us women always point the finger at men objectifying us, and comparing us against unattainable standards of beauty. However, if you really think about it, women are way more harsher than men when it comes to appearances. Women are the ones who judge other women and comment on other women’s appearances. Most men probably don’t notice anything - unless you have some very distinguishing features.

This “epiphany” was sparked by a conversation I had with R. So I said, “I need to lose a bit of weight.” R said, “You don’t look fat. By the way, skinny doesn’t equal pretty.” I reply, “I know. I don’t want to be skinny. I should rephrase…I want to be firmer. Have a bit more muscles. You know, be stronger and firmer.” R says, “Well, there’s this misconception that most women have…that men like skinny girls. It’s actually not true. Skinny isn’t attractive.” Then I retorted, “Well, most women don’t try to lose weight for men. I think it’s more for themselves….and maybe other girls.” 

Then it hit me. Why do normal-sized women complain of wanting to lose weight? Are we doing it so our boyfriends/husbands/potentials will find us more attractive? Or are we doing it so we feel more attractive? Or is it so that we don’t feel as bad when we compare ourselves to other women? 

So my conclusion is that, women are way more harsher when it comes to looks than men are. Men are quite forgiving, in that they don’t feel as shocked when a girl isn’t wearing makeup. Think about it, isn’t it always a woman who asks you, “Are you feeling sick? You look a bit sick.” But of course, there are always the genuinely caring people who truly have good intentions. But for the rest of them, well, bitch…I’m just not wearing makeup. Haha.

Happy mid-week. You’re almost there…in the meantime, a silly joke for you.