women helping women, or not really?

I’m on Youtube and I see a link “What to wear for your Body shape!” and I click into it. I watch the whole video but I’m still not sure exactly what my body shape is, so I read the description and there’s a link to find out your body type.

And so I click and the questions are kind of like these:
Where is your fat most stubborn?
Which body part are you most unhappy with?
If you ate a whole chocolate cake, where does the weight all go to?
Do you have a protruding belly, big thighs or broad shoulders?

And then I closed the damn window. Seriously? Why do people always assume that every woman is not happy with their body?

If I ate a whole chocolate cake, (first of all — I probably wouldn’t do that), but if I did, I don’t think the weight would suddenly pile on overnight. I’m not going to wake up and scream, OH YOU BLOODY CAKE!

And I have a slightly protruding belly, I don’t really have big thighs, I have a normal looking shoulder, I have excess meat on my waist when my jeans are too tight. But so what? Does that make me horrible and unlovable? Does that mean I have to swear an oath never to eat chocolate cake anymore? Or that I must MUST always wear dark colours because it’s slimming? HELL NO.

You know, it’s easy to blame men and say that they objectify women as sex objects and always want a hot women — but the real problem is women ourselves. Women are way more harsher than men in judging appearances. Most men I know like girls without makeup. Most women I know would die before walking outside with no makeup on. Men see cleavage and they’re rather happy (sorry to simplify you men like that, I know you’re all capable of intelligent reasoning too). Women HAVE cleavage but complain about their stomach, arms, cheekbones, butt…yada yada.

So, I would like every women out there to GIVE YOURSELF A COMPLIMENT. You don’t have to wait for others to say something nice about you in order to feel good. You don’t have to compare yourself to celebrities or models. Give yourself a compliment today.

Life dishes up way too much shit already. Don’t shit on your own plate. :)

That’s my love message for the day. xx

Food for thought: Celebrities who have what you consider to be the “perfect body” are also susceptible to depression, cancer, drugs, divorce and other problems. Looking beautiful doesn’t make your problems go away. Feeling beautiful though, makes you feel good about yourself and self-esteem is linked with greater life satisfaction and longer life expectancy. You only get this one life here, love it.